Hey there,
Do you have a hard time taking a compliment and getting a referral or testimonial? Keep reading and I will tell you how you can master both, at the same time.

You look fantastic!

What’s your immediate response when someone says that to you?

Do you brush it off? Oh, thanks, I’m exhausted.

Do you turn it around? Wow, YOU look amazing! Did you lose weight?

Maybe you’ve mastered accepting that kind of compliment — or maybe you still have some work to do.

But what if a client says to you, Oh my GOSH, you’re INCREDIBLE. This is FABULOUS. I can’t believe what an incredible job you’ve done here!

What’s your reply?

Do you brush that off? Oh, well, you gave me such great material to work with.

Or just keep things “professional” with a Thanks!

Have you ever stopped to think that when your clients tell you You’re amazing, that’s the best opportunity to ask for a referral or a testimonial?

It’s true. At that moment, you have SOLID PROOF that they’re happy, and an extremely natural follow up is to AT MINIMUM ask if you can quote them on that. 

Literally, just say, “Thank you so much! Can I use that as a testimonial?”

Unless you have really weird clients, they’re probably going to say yes. 

And then, you can ALSO follow up and say, “I really love [delivering this outcome] for you. In fact, I’m actually looking to fill another slot in my schedule, so if you know anyone who also needs [the service you provide], I’d absolutely love an introduction.”

Now, if you just read that, and you’re like, “Yeah, Lauren, I’m not doing that,” then we need to have some words. 

Because if you’re reluctant to take a complement and get a referral or testimonial, you’re probably ALSO having some difficulty accepting your wins. 

Truly, nothing makes me crazier than when I see Free Mamas do this:

Oh my gosh, I just got my first client! I mean, it’s like a really super small one-off project. It’s, like, not that big of a deal.

WHAT IS THAT?

You’re not actually celebrating your wins. You’re actually hurting yourself. Because in the same breath of air as you acknowledged your accomplishments, you actually deflated them. And that’s what your brain is left with. That’s the part you remember. 

It was good. But it wasn’t good enough.

JUST NO.

Unacceptable. 

TAKE THE WIN. 

Celebrate the win. 

And learn to take a compliment, because you’re awesome!