The time I forgot to take my own advice…

You know, mama, the last few weeks, it’s felt like I’m stuck treading water in the deep end of the pool, and I need Daphne and Henry to swim out and save me — which maybe gives you a little insight into the levels of desperation I felt some days.

A lot happened. Besides being down for the count this past week, I recently made some decisions in my business that turned out… well, not as expected, and not in a good way. I felt myself floundering, and worst of all, I felt like there was no one who could help me. No one who could mentor me. No one who could help me see clearly to the next step. 

Um, Lauren, you’re saying. Did you not read your own blog last week? The logic? The asking for help?

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Yeah, hi. Fallible human here, and I definitely don’t always remember to take my own advice. Once I finally remembered that I do, in fact, pay a decent amount of money specifically to have access to some great mentors, I reached out and asked for the help I needed. 

Well, that’s not exactly true.

At first, I just reached out and word vomited all over my business coach. I told her about everything I was feeling and caught her up on all the craziness in my business and life. And when I was finished, she said, “You haven’t asked anything. What do you need help with?”

Her answer infuriated me for a few seconds — until I realized she was right. If I don’t take the time to figure out what’s wrong and ask for the help I need, no one else can help me. 

After that call, I sat down and figured out what help I needed, and I asked for it. Then I got back on a call with my coach and talked through everything.

The next day, I met with a mindset coach who asked me, point-blank, “Lauren, what would you tell a Free Mama to do in this situation?”

Overwhelm happens, but it comes down to what to do when you are overwhelmed that makes all the difference.  Learn how to handle overwhelm!
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Which made me stop and look at everything from a different perspective. No one gave me the answers. We didn’t solve my issues right then and there, and there’s still plenty of work to do, but I got the distance I needed. The very act of asking for help, of talking through the places where I’m struggling to figure things out — that made a huge difference for me. I could breathe again.

That night, I slept through the night for the first time in months.

The thing is, when you’re stressed out and in the thick of it, you can’t see clearly. You can’t find your way to the next action. That’s where a mentor — or even an accountability buddy — can really help.  That is what to do when you are overwhelmed – reach out for help.

It’s exactly what we do in group coaching, which you can sign up for when you enroll in The Free Mama Movement 12-week program  — and it’s why group coaching exists. Overwhelm is real. It’s like being tangled up in a net — the more you struggle, the less likely you are to escape. It’s only when someone can say to you, “Hey, look, here’s a scissors,” that you remember, “OH RIGHT, SCISSORS ARE A THING.”

And by the way, if you’ve been on the fence about enrolling in the 12-week program, the price is going up THIS MONTH. So this is your last chance to get in at the current rate — and get access to allllllll of the amazing information that’s waiting for you on the inside. Plus, the ONLY way to get access to Group Coaching is to be a part of the 12-week program — you can only unlock it once you’ve enrolled in The Free Mama Movement.

You don’t have to go through this alone, Mama, because we’re all here for you.  You don’t have to wonder what to do when you are overwhelmed anymore, because you have an entire community waiting to help!

P.S. I want to make sure you know you can have a successful business AND a fulfilling personal life. Which is why I am thrilled my friend Laura Meyer has put together an amazing FREE event called Scale with Joy. She’s interviewed me, along with two dozen other powerhouse leaders, on how YOU can have it ALL, and it won’t cost you a penny to check it all out.Sign up for free here!

P.P.S. Don’t miss your chance to enroll in The Free Mama Movement before the price goes up! 

Also, don’t forget to check out this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV – find out what companies hire virtual assistants!