Are you copping out instead of coping?
A few weeks ago, I let myself down, mama.
A coaching student of mine — we’ll call her Belinda, because that’s not her name — hit a rough spot. She came to me and explained all the reasons why she couldn’t keep moving forward, and she severed our professional relationship, and I let her do it.
Ever since, it’s bothered me, and it took me a while to figure out why.
It’s because Belinda came to me with excuses. Belinda copped out, and I didn’t fight for her.
The thing is, life is full of hard things. Some of them are mildly hard: you get the flu, your husband has to travel for work, you fight with your best friend.
Sometimes, things are really hard. Your kid is in the hospital. You get divorced. Someone close to you dies.
You can’t control ANY of that. As a Type A+ planner, I’ve tried. It doesn’t work.
There’s only ONE thing you can control, and that’s YOU. Your reaction to what’s happening, what YOU do.
When life is hard, our brains crave safety and stability. There’s actual science behind why you want to crawl into bed, eat the ice cream, and not do the “dangerous” thing. There’s biology behind making those big, impulsive decisions when you’re in the midst of chaos and crisis.
But you have to fight it.
Because the decisions you make in that moment of fear and weakness — I’m sorry, but let’s call it what it is — can have an impact on your entire life.
It looks like this: You decide you want more from life. You want to be at home with your kids, to leave your toxic job, to make a significant change. You commit. You start learning. You even meet with a potential client, but you feel flustered and unsure. We have to LEARN how to quit quitting.
And then your kid breaks his arm or gets pneumonia and you start thinking about health insurance and you decide, right then and there, that this freelancing thing is IMPOSSIBLE, so you’ll just stay where you are.
Stuck.
That’s a cop-out. And in those moments, you need someone who will fight for you.
I didn’t fight for Belinda — but I won’t make that mistake again.
I will not let you justify walking away from what you really want just because it’s a little bit hard and a little bit scary.
I will fight for you. I will push you to recognize your excuses for what they are. I will not allow you to turn yourself into a victim with no recourse. YOU DESERVE BETTER, MAMA. You deserve to learn how to quit quitting.
And my promise to you is that I will BE better for you.
If your kids came to you and said, “Hey, this science project is really hard, so I’m not going to do it,” how would you react? I’ll tell you how: you’d hit the roof. And that’s what I’m going to do to you. I’m going to call you out and sit you back down at the table to do the work.
Yeah, it’s hard. Yeah, it takes effort. But you can do hard things, and if you want your life to change, you have to change the decisions you make…that’s how you quit quitting.
And I’ve got your back.
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