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What if I’m not good enough? Is this a question you’ve ever asked yourself, mama?

Well, if so, then I have exactly ONE thing to say to you!

Congratulations! Yes, really!

Feeling like you’re not good enough — like an imposter — is a sign that you’re doing new things. You’re growing. You’re pushing yourself past your comfort zone and venturing out into uncharted territory.

So it’s actually a very good thing. And it means you’re on your way to learning how to overcome imposter syndrome.

But I definitely understand that when you’re struggling with imposter syndrome, you might find yourself too scared to keep going. 

So, today on FreeMamaTV, we’ll dig into imposter syndrome, how to overcome imposter syndrome, and show you exactly how you can overcome it.

You don’t have to let imposter syndrome control your life. 

Head over to the YouTubes and check out this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV so that you can embrace your imperfection and turn it into a real strength.

Be sure & to subscribe to FreeMamaTV so you can be the first to know when a new episode airs!

P.S. If you ever feel like your past experiences were a waste of time (like that college degree you’re not using!), you’ll definitely want to check out this week’s episode of Free Mama Radio!!

If you’re looking for even more mindset shifts, check out last week’s episode all about overcoming self doubt!

It’s super hard to write a blog post when you’re crying.

I am feeling the feels right now, mama.

The house is packed up. The rooms all have that echo. I think about getting a glass of water wine, and then I walk in the kitchen and remember that the glasses are all in boxes.

We leave next week, and it’s not going to be easy to say farewell, Houston.

When we came here in 2016, it felt like we were trying to run away from everything in our life. We were tired. We were sick of being poor and in debt. We were exhausted in the way parents of toddlers are perpetually bleary eyed. We were tired of each other, but avoided having hard conversations. 

We were stuck. We couldn’t find any good options, and Houston felt like the only way out of the mess we had somehow made of our lives. 

And when we got here, things got worse before they got better. 

Our new house broke. 

We needed new tires. 

It rained. It poured. (Literally. Rain in Houston is insane.)

But we started doing the work.

We worked on our marriage together, and Justin and I each worked on ourselves. 

Audrey, our rainbow baby, was born.

The Free Mama was built within these walls. 

It’s like… we had to come here, to become this version of ourselves.

And now…

We leave soon, and it’s not going to be easy to go back to Kansas City.

Yes, there are so many wonderful things about this move. I am over the moon excited to be near my family again. 

But. 

In Kansas City, people know a different version of me. They know Lauren who worked at a regular job, Lauren who was tired and run down and afraid. 

They don’t know me the way you know me, and I gotta say, it’s a little intimidating to move back to a place where people have expectations. 

Moving back doesn’t mean moving backwards. 

I’m not going to unbecome The Free Mama — that’s who I am now. I get to take all of these wonderful, difficult, amazing moments and transformations with me. 

I’m not running away.

I’m running towards something even better. 

There’s still plenty of work to do, and I’m energized. I’m excited to wake up and start every day.

And I’m looking forward to making more amazing memories in Kansas City — and with you.

Farewell, Houston.

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Get ready to learn the secret to taming the gremlins that hold you back and how to overcome self doubt:

You’ve heard those voices in your head, right, mama?

You know: 

You’re not smart enough to do this.

You don’t have the right experience. 

Who do you think you are, anyway?

Well, I have good news for you: you can wave buh-bye to that inner mean girl who keeps trying to talk you out of the success you deserve. Head on over to YouTube and check out the latest episode of FreeMamaTV, where I’m breaking down my proven strategy for clearing out the noise, getting to the heart of what’s holding you back, and how to overcome self doubt.

Once you learn this framework, you’ll be able to use it anytime you’re feeling a little bit insecure. And the more you use it, the more effective it becomes. Think of this as your own secret superpower — because it’s going to make you practically invincible!

Ready to leave those limiting beliefs behind and step into the spotlight? Tune into this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV and learn how to overcome self-doubt. See you there!

Be sure & to subscribe to FreeMamaTV so you can be the first to know when a new episode airs!

P.S. Did you happen to hear the latest episode of Free Mama Radio? It’s a good one – on showing up imperfectly!!

Also, if you feel like you’re always setting goals but never actually hitting them, check out this episode of Free Mama TV – and get ready to SMASH YOUR GOALS!

Imagine that it’s Thursday morning, and you find email from your client. 

Hey you! I shared a doc with you earlier with details on the project I need you to handle. When can you get this done?

You’re a people pleaser, so before you even get out of bed, your reply: Hey! No worries — I’ll get this done today. 

An hour later when you’re at your desk and you actually look at the document, you want to stab yourself with a fork.

You have high standards. You want to overdeliver, to put a bow on it, to rock out the work. But you also want to know how to establish boundaries.

And right now, you hate your life because you created an extremely arbitrary deadline for a big project. 

You wind up working all day. You’re snapping at the kids, and it’s way past their bedtime by the time you finish.

This is NOT what you signed up for when you started out as a Virtual Administrative Consultant. You wanted to be in control of your time. You wanted to be in control of your life. 

Yet, here you are, working long hours and not reading bedtime stories to your kids. 

And the worst part? It’s your own fault. 

I used to do this ALL. THE. TIME. 

I’d create a sense of urgency that wasn’t really there, and then I’d force myself to get things done on the timeline I’d created in my mind. Instead of sitting with Daphne to talk about her day, I’d be staying up late to ensure the work was perfect.

Which meant I was tired and grumpy the next day.

Which…

You get the picture. 

WHY?

Look, you’re a Free Mama, so providing an exceptional experience for your clients is WHO YOU ARE. 

And sometimes, there is real urgency for a project. Sometimes, the client actually needs something to happen RIGHT NOW, for a valid reason. 

Other times? Well, it’s worth asking. 

When does this need to be done?

And then clarify things:

Right now, I’m working on these five things for you. Do you want me to set those aside and focus solely on this thing?

When you need to, ask for help prioritizing the work. Let your client decide what’s truly urgent and what can stay in the queue. 

Communication, Mama. The better you get at communicating with your clients, the better you’ll be at setting expectations and that’s how to establish boundaries that let you truly live the Free Mama life.

Looking for a little guidance as you build your Free Mama life? Check out the Free Mama Guide to Freelancing. It’s the most affordable way to get started AND get your communication, expectations, and boundaries into place. 

P.S. Want to know how to truly spark transformation in your life? Don’t miss this blog post!

P.P.S. Need even more Free Mama goodness? Check out Free Mama TV!

Confession time, mama: I’m OBSESSED with setting goals.

I know, that probably doesn’t surprise anyone who knows me even a little bit. But it’s the truth. I LOVE setting goals, and I LOVE smashing through them. And I’ve come to realize that not everyone has the same experience that I do when it comes to goal setting. 

In this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV, I’m taking you deep inside my process. I’m showing you exactly where to start — and how to think about the really big goals — plus, how to make sure that you actually get all the way down to crossing the right things off your to-do list.

When you tune in, you’ll get an inside look at what I do, and the rule of thumb I use when I’m setting big goals. Plus, I’ll show you where most people screw up — and how you can avoid that super-common pitfall and be a successful goal-setter instead. 

Check out this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV right here — and get excited about all the things you’re going to do!

Remember when you learned about caterpillars and butterflies in kindergarten, mama?

Think about it for a second. I mean, really, think about that caterpillar, building a cocoon. It’s literally creating a new environment for itself — and I’m not really sure how comfortable it is in there. And then, inside that cocoon, that caterpillar becomes something else entirely. It’s entire body changes. 

Wild. 

Sameness will never create change, so if you’re looking to create massive transformation in your life, you’re going to need to make some dramatic changes. 

That’s one of the reasons I love going to events and conferences. It’s a pattern interrupt — a way to break free from routines and spark transformation I need in my life and my business.

So let’s talk about the things you can do to make the most out of any event you attend — whether online or in person. 

First of all, attending an in-person event automatically forces a physical change in your surroundings. You’re up and out of your desk chair. You might be in a different city, walking and talking instead of clicking on a keyboard and working in solitude. 

But what if it’s 2020, and all the events are online? 

Well, then you have to get creative. 

• Could you book a night at a hotel? 
• Is there a coffee shop where you can spend a few hours? 
• Could you change up your space at home? 

Even shifting from the couch to the dining room table, or going for a quick walk around the neighborhood can force you into a new perspective and help you see things differently. 

Create a change in your physical surroundings to spark physical change. 

TIP: At Free Mama Live, we’ve built yoga sessions and dance breaks into our days, so you’ll be up and moving regularly. 💃💃💃

Next, emotional change is extremely powerful. And to force that kind of change, you’re going to have to get a little bit uncomfortable. 

At an event, you have the chance to meet people who think differently than you do. Embrace that opportunity. Hear opposing viewpoints, and really listen. Don’t tune out when a speaker presents something you disagree with.

If you’ve never given meditation a try, maybe now is the time. What happens when you sit quietly and focus on the inner work? On the flip side, if you’re used to sitting still with your thoughts, what happens when you force yourself to engage with others?

How can you push yourself to make emotional change? There are so many ways for you to do this every single day: 

• Read books that challenge your thinking.
• Listen to podcasts that feature people with different experiences.
• Get a mindset coach.
• Read a Twitter feed you disagree with.

TIP: At Free Mama Live, we’ll be doing some pretty deep mindset work to confront your limiting beliefs. 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

Finally, you also want to encourage a mental change. 

This starts with investing in yourself. Learning new things. You’ve figured that part out. You’re checking out the trainings in the Facebook group, binging FreeMamaTV, listening to the podcast. 

But… are you implementing what you learn?

It’s not enough to just read all the books, buy all the courses, and wait for the magic to happen. You have to APPLY what you’re learning. 

So, you don’t just watch a video about Canva. You have to dig in and USE it. You don’t just listen to someone TALK about building a funnel. You get into ClickFunnels and DO IT. 

Here are a few things you can do:

• Try out that new software or tool you just read about.
• Teach someone else how to do something you just learned how to do.
• Take on a project that makes use of your new skills, even if they’re not perfect yet.

TIP: At Free Mama Live, you’ll be able to participate in Skills Labs where you’ll have the opportunity to put your new skills into practice. 🎓🎓🎓

ARE YOU READY FOR TRANSFORMATION, MAMA?

Let’s do this!

P.S. Free Mama LIVE kicks off TODAY at 6pm Central. THIS IS YOUR ABSOLUTE LAST CHANCE TO JOIN US! Ticket sales close the MOMENT the doors open!

P.P.S. Did you see my last blog post? I’m giving the scoop on the one skill you absolutely need to be a successful freelancer!

I’ve tried ALL the things, mama.

Seriously. In my quest to leave my 9-5 and make an income as a SAHM, I spent months of my life (and a LOT of money) looking into everything I heard about.

I tried network marketing (spoiler: it didn’t go well) and blogging (never made a penny).

Basically, if it came up when you Google “how to make money from home,” I tried it, and NONE of it worked. 

Until the one thing that did.  

Today on FreeMamaTV, I’m pulling back the curtain on the BEST way to work from home and earn a real income. 

You don’t want to have to choose between family and finances — and you don’t have to. 

Check out this week’s episode of FreeMamaTV to learn how you can get started and make an income as a SAHM right now with skills you already have — without selling stuff to your friends and family.

Be sure & to subscribe to FreeMamaTV so you can be the first to know when a new episode airs!

P.S. Did you happen to hear the latest episode of Free Mama Radio? We are diving into Courage and Confidence with Guest Stacy Dean!

If you feel like you’re burning the wick at both ends, I got you mama! You don’t have to juggle everything! Grab my work from home template in last week’s episode of Free Mama TV!