Are you curious about the secret to confidence, mama?

Three years ago, I was looking everywhere for that secret. The next webinar would have the answer. Learning this one other skill would give me what I needed. Just a little more preparation. I wanted to know how to find courage.

And in the meantime, I’d put on my big sunglasses for the drive home so the kids wouldn’t see me crying. 

I was in pain and going through the motions for a long time. 

I believed the story I told myself — that I was almost ready, but not quite. That I was learning and preparing for — something. 

Part of me truly believed that one day, a timer somewhere would sound, and POOF! I’d be confident! I’d be ready! 

Instead, I got a different kind of wake up call, when I had a miscarriage.

It took that level of pain to give me the push I needed to walk away from my job. And that’s what I don’t want for you, Mama. I don’t want you to keep believing that there’s a secret strategy for gaining confidence and courage.  There’s no magic recipe for how to find courage.

There isn’t. 

And all this time that you’re putting into “learning” and “preparing” could be time you’re spending earning money. You could be doing the work instead of thinking about it. You could be gaining experience instead of dreaming about your perfect life. 

Do you remember your very first driving lesson? You got in a car, and the instructor told you to put your foot on the gas. 

And all of a sudden, you were driving. On roads. With other cars around you and traffic lights and (if you were really unlucky) roundabouts to navigate. 

You didn’t feel ready, but you had no choice, so you clutched the steering wheel, leaned alllllll the way forward and you drove.

On the flip side, I’ve seen posts like this in our community:

SO DEPRESSED! The client wants me to do _______. I told her I’ve never done that before. She didn’t care and wanted to hire me, but I just don’t think I can do a good job, so I said no.

Mama. You are in a warm and supportive community of twenty-five thousand women. Someone in here has done exactly the work the client needs, and will talk you through the hard parts. And I can promise you that when you actually sit down, the hard parts won’t be nearly as hard as you think. 

But if you push away every possible opportunity, you’ll never, ever get where you want to go. 

So….how to find courage? Courage comes from inside. From taking action. No one else can give it to you. You have to decide that you want to act, and then do it. 

That’s the only way.

P.S. The FINAL TWO MEETUPS of the year are almost here! If you’re an Orlando or a New York area mama, I WANT TO SEE YOU!